There’s something about a room full of women that can stir up a whirlwind of emotions. Excitement. Curiosity. And for many – fear. It’s not uncommon for women to hesitate when it comes to retreats, women’s events, or even small groups. Not because they don’t want to grow in their faith, not because they don’t need community, but because they quietly wonder: Will I be accepted? Will I belong? Is there a seat at the table for me?
The fear of rejection is no respecter of personalities. It doesn’t matter if you’re an extrovert who loves people or an introvert who prefers the back row. That little voice inside still whispers, What if I’m not enough? What if I’m too much? What if I don’t fit in?
We carry with us stories – some from childhood, some fresh from last week – that have taught us it’s safer to stay back. We’ve been left out, looked over, or labeled. So we build walls, smile politely and say, “Maybe next time,” when someone invites us in. And yet, beneath it all, we’re aching to be seen, known and accepted.
Here’s the truth we often forget: every woman in the room has carried that same fear at one point. That woman who seems confident? She once questioned if she’d be welcomed. That woman who leads with boldness? She once sat in her car, debating if she would walk in. We’re more alike than we think.
But here’s the good news: there is a seat for you!
Not just any seat – but one chosen with you in mind.
Jesus modeled this kind of radical welcome. He invited those society overlooked. He gave a voice to women in a culture that silenced them. He saw people. And He sees you. Your story. Your wounds. Your beauty. Your heart.
Scripture reminds us: “You are no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with God’s people and also members of His household.” – Ephesians 2:19
You belong in the family of God. You are not on the outside looking in. You’re already invited.
When fear rises and whispers that you won’t fit in, here are some steps you can take to overcome it:
- Pray and ask God to show you the truth. Let him quiet the lies with His love. “I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.” Psalm 34:4
- Take the first step anyway. Courage isn’t the absence of fear – it’s moving forward in the presences of it. Walk into the room, even if your knees shake. You’ll be surprised how many women are relieved you came.
- Choose connection over comparison. Every women has a story you don’t know. Instead of assuming you don’t belong, assume that your presence might be the exact encouragement someone else needs.
- Remind yourself who set the table. God did. And he doesn’t make mistakes. He didn’t just invite you – He wanted you there.
So if you’ve been hesitant to sign up, to show up, or to open up – this is your reminder: You are already accepted. You already belong!
There’s a seat for you, sister! And somone’s waiting for you to take it. Come as you are you and let the healing begin!